I love people and I am curious by nature. When I meet someone I always want to hear their story and learn what makes them tick. We all have a story that we believe to be true about who we are and how we got here. What if you could rewrite that story when it’s not working for you? I can work with you to rewire your mind and body experience so that you can be free to write a future unencumbered by self-limiting beliefs. Just imagine…
My Professional Story
I have worked therapeutically for over 20 years in many different roles in the community sector and mental health. I am a trained Gestalt Psychotherapist who employs relational and evidence based therapies including Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT), Mindfulness Practices, and the The Richards Trauma Process (TRTP).
In my work at Kundalini House and currently Online, I work with couples and individuals to facilitate personal growth, improve relationship dynamics and short-circuit and resolve traumatic experiences.
When we are in isolation our nervous system cannot cope, paradoxically it creates the problem and it is the problem, it blocks our healing and it’s unbearable. But of course it makes sense when we realise that we were abandoned in that place.
I help couples to accept each others strengths, and differences through identifying their unique pattern. From this place we are able to find ways out of distress and into intimacy and deep connection. All couples get caught up in relational distress, and it causes us intense pain, yet I believe we are all wired to seek healthy attachments. Well balanced interdependent relationships enrich our overall well being, giving us a safe place to take on the world and achieve our life goals.
In a 24/7 culture within the context of the current global pandemic, personal and collective anxiety, depression, and fears of the future are at record highs, there’s never been a better time to find your psychological island of sanity which supports ways to live; and how to parent, how to cope with change, or bring your best self to your relationships and your career.
With feelings of overwhelm, grief, personal anxiety and depression at an all time high; it is the best time to discover ways to rewire the experience of contraction, and catastrophic thinking and experience playing a different role in your life.
I strongly believe we can build a more cohesive society, by healing and loving ourselves, respecting our planet and learning how to bring our best selves to our relationships. Carl Rogers said ‘organismic trusting involves legitimizing and affirming the validity of one’s inner experience and using it as a guide for action. The gift of therapy is this confidence confirmed in oneself, it enables and supports secure connections to others’. As well as working with you to help develop coping strategies, I can also help you to tap into your personal potential, and take your power into your own hands. It’s my belief that you are always one decision away from cultivating a new life, through simple attention, of nurturing ourselves.
One powerful practice is an embrace of unconditional love and acceptance, just as we would our best friend or loved ones.
If you sense in yourself pain, pause, and offer this mindfulness, kindness and self compassion practice now
In this practice your own hand offers physical tenderness and releases oxytocin, just as it would if someone was touching you lovingly or when you touch someone you love.
- Place your hand over your heart
- Say to yourself ‘this is hard, or this is a moment of suffering’
- Then say ‘suffering is part of life, everyone suffers’
- Then say, ‘May I hold this suffering with compassion and kindness.’ Feel the tenderness through your hand as you hold yourself.
My Own Story
I have had many different careers (including hairdressing, State Sales Manger at Joico, Social Worker) and also walked many paths (in Australia and overseas) in the search for my tribe and an abiding belief in myself. It was only when I discovered and started practising therapy that I felt that I had discovered my true calling.
Like everyone I have experienced my own fair share of suffering and healing. Whether it was my life long struggle with insomnia living as a carer for my disabled mother for 25 years, the recent death of my parents, searching for my identity and place in the world, or starting a family late in life, I have always found the value in self examination, compassion, mindfulness and a love of life long learning.