Here you will find links and recommendations to Books, Podcasts and Websites to explore. They are arranged by topic, so grab a cuppa and dive in:
New Clients – Start Here
EFT Cycle Video Explainer
I view couples counselling not as a sign of failure, but as an investment in the vitality and strength of the most important relationship in your life. Before beginning Couples therapy, I highly recommend both of you watching this video to understand how Emotionally Focused Therapy can help.
Relationships, EFT and Psychotherapy
Books
Hold Me Tight – Dr. Sue Johnson
This bestselling book offers a groundbreaking approach to building stronger, more secure relationships. The foundational text of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
The Hold Me Tight Workbook – Dr. Sue Johnson
I recommend this excellent workbook for couples who want conversation prompts, exercises and activities and resources to navigate conflict and achieve greater intimacy and a more secure relationship. This workbook compliments EFT Couples Therapy as well as offering a great support for any couple.
Attached – Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller
Explores adult relationships through the lens of attachment theory, explaining how our biological need for intimacy shapes our behaviour and offering guidance on how to build healthier partnerships.
Secure Love – Julie Menanno
This book explores how attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) can help couples stop repetitive arguments and build deep emotional safety. Rather than focusing on how a relationship looks to others, Menanno guides us to focus on how a relationship feels from the inside.
It’s Not Your Fault: Why Childhood Trauma Shapes You and How to Break Free – Alex Howard
This book outlines how unresolved childhood trauma manifests as adult physical and mental health issues, offering a framework for healing by repairing nervous system regulation. It highlights the need to address unmet emotional needs for safety, boundaries, and love to break free from self-limiting, guilt-driven, or anxious behaviors.
Podcasts
Being Well Podcast
An overall excellent podcast hosted by celebrated clinical psychologist Dr. Rick Hanson and his son Forrest Hanson. It explores practical tools from psychology, science, and mindfulness to help people build inner strength, manage stress, and find lasting well-being.
I recommend this episode as it explores and explains EFT, including its history and insights with the late, great Sue Johnson herself.
Websites
Sex and Sensuality
Books
Mating in Captivity – Esther Perel
Explores the core paradox of long-term relationships: how to reconcile the need for domestic security with the pursuit of sexual passion. It explains that love is about safety and “having,” while desire thrives on mystery, separateness, and “wanting”.
Come Together – Emily Nagoski
The core message of this accessible read is that sexual well-being in long-term relationships is measured by mutual pleasure and connection rather than spontaneous desire or frequency. The book challenges cultural myths about sex, explains the dual control model of sexual brakes and accelerators, and offers practical tools to nurture long-term intimacy.
Come As You Are – Emily Nagoski
This essential exploration of female sexuality debunks common myths, explaining that every woman’s sexual response is unique like a fingerprint. The core ideas centre on the Dual Control Model, the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, and how context and stress heavily shape sexual wellbeing.
Magnificent Sex – Peggy J. Kleinplatz and A. Dana Ménard
Written by sex researchers Dr. Peggy J. Kleinplatz and Dr. A. Dana Ménard, this book is based on in-depth interviews with people who experience exceptional intimacy. The book reveals that great sex does not rely on mechanical tricks, but on full presence, deep empathy, and vulnerability.
Podcasts
Get Naked with Dr Kate
The Get Naked with Dr. Kate Podcast is an educational and entertainment program focused on shattering societal stigmas around human sexuality. Hosted by Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a licensed clinical and forensic psychologist, certified sex therapist, and founder of the wellness practice Modern Intimacy, the show investigates how sex, mental health, and relationships intersect in modern society.
Websites
estherperel.com
This is the official digital hub of Esther Perel. This website is an educational platform and content archive to help you navigate the complexities of love, intimacy, and connection at home and in the workplace.
Neurodivergence and Neurospicy Relationships
Books
Scattered Minds – Gabor Maté
This groundbreaking book redefines ADHD/ADD not as an inherited genetic illness, but as a reversible developmental delay and a psychological response to early environmental stress. Drawing from his medical practice and his personal diagnosis with ADD, Maté offers a compassionate framework centred on brain development, emotional attachment, and psychological healing.
The ADHD Effect on Marriage – Melissa C. Orlov
This book outlines how unmanaged ADHD creates destructive, predictable cycles of interaction that erode intimacy in romantic relationships. The guide provides a six-step framework for couples to shift from parent-child dynamics to a collaborative partnership by separating the person from the disorder and actively managing symptoms through treatment.
Unmasking Autism: The Power of Embracing Our Hidden Neurodiversity – Dr. Devon Price
This foundational text in the neurodiversity movement explores “masking”—the exhausting process where Autistic individuals suppress their natural traits to blend into a neurotypical society. The book reframes Autism from a medical deficit into a valid, value-neutral way of processing the world, providing a practical roadmap for readers to safely shed their masks and live authentically.
ADHD 2.0 Edward M. Hallowell and John J. Rateyby
Psychiatrists Dr. Edward M. Hallowell and Dr. John J. Ratey shift the perspective of ADHD from a deficit-based disorder to a strength-based neurological trait that can be optimized in this highly recommended book. The authors, who both have ADHD themselves, use the metaphor of a Ferrari engine with bicycle brakes. The core goal of managing ADHD is not to suppress the powerful engine, but to strengthen the brakes.
Podcasts
LATE BLOOMERS
This podcast, hosted by Rich and Rod Pink, is a no-nonsense personal growth show. It focuses on navigating neurodiversity, overcoming major life setbacks, and proving that it is never too late to turn your life around. It’s also a wonderful demonstration of how a neurospicy couple can rise to their strengths by sharing their story.
Also see their YouTube Channel ADHD Love.
ADHD Chatter
This popular weekly mental health podcast is hosted by Alex Partridge, the founder of social media giants LADBible and UNILAD, who was diagnosed with ADHD at age 34. The show serves as an open, raw, and supportive space exploring the realities of living with neurodivergence. It targets late-diagnosed adults who often feel misunderstood, misdiagnosed, or isolated.
Websites
adhdmarriage.com
ADHD & Marriage, founded by relationship expert Melissa Orlov, serves as the primary online hub for couples navigating the impact of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder on their relationships.
rileymorgantherapy.com
A highly recommended resource page for autistic folks and parents, curated by Riley Morgan, a neurodivergent therapist in California.
kelly-mahler.com
An educational platform created by occupational therapist Kelly Mahler that focuses entirely on interoception. The site serves as a global hub providing resources to professionals, caregivers, and individuals seeking to improve body awareness and emotional self-regulation.
autismhangout.com
Autism Hangout is an online community and informational resource hub founded in 2008 by author and journalist Craig Evans. It’s mission is to build a “community of care” and provide actionable insights that help individuals, families, and educators thrive with autism.
additudemag.com
ADDitude Magazine is a premier evidence-based information website which features expert-reviewed articles, and support for ADHD and related neurodivergent conditions. The platform provides comprehensive, expert-vetted resources for children and adults, including symptom tests, webinars, and a specialized professional directory.
Diagnostic questionnaires for those who are interested in exploring whether they may be on the Autistic spectrum or ADHD